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Hawaiian healer and similarities to IFS spirituality
Since using IFS as a therapist I believe this could be very real and am curious about it! Thought others would like it. Keith
THERAPIST IN HAWAII
This is an excerpt from the forthcoming book "Zero Limits"
by Joe Vitale and Dr. Hew Len.
Due out July 2007
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Two years ago, I heard about a therapist in Hawaii who cured a complete ward of criminally insane patients--without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate's chart and then look within himself to see how he created that person's illness. As he improved himself, the patient improved.
When I first heard this story, I thought it was an urban legend. How could anyone heal anyone else by healing himself? How could even the best self-improvement master cure the criminally insane?
It didn't make any sense. It wasn't logical, so I dismissed the story.
However, I heard it again a year later. I heard that the therapist had used a Hawaiian healing process called ho 'oponopono. I had never heard of it, yet I couldn't let it leave my mind. If the story was at all true, I had to know more.
I had always understood "total responsibility" to mean that I am responsible for what I think and do. Beyond that, it's out of my hands. I think that most people think of total responsibility that way. We're responsible for what we do, not what anyone else does. The Hawaiian therapist who healed those mentally ill people would teach me an advanced new perspective about total responsibility.
His name is Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. We probably spent an hour talking on our first phone call. I asked him to tell me the complete story of his work as a therapist. He explained that he worked at Hawaii State Hospital for four years. That ward where they kept the criminally insane was dangerous.
Psychologists quit on a monthly basis. The staff called in sick a lot or simply quit. People would walk through that ward with their backs against the wall, afraid of being attacked by patients. It was not a pleasant place to live, work, or visit.
Dr. Len told me that he never saw patients. He agreed to have an office and to review their files. While he looked at those files, he would work on himself. As he worked on himself, patients began to heal.
"After a few months, patients that had to be shackled were being allowed to walk freely," he told me. "Others who had to be heavily medicated were getting off their medications. And those who had no chance of ever being released were being freed."
I was in awe.
"Not only that," he went on, "but the staff began to enjoy coming to work.
Absenteeism and turnover disappeared. We ended up with more staff than we needed because patients were being released, and all the staff was showing up to work. Today, that ward is closed."
This is where I had to ask the million dollar question: "What were you doing within yourself that caused those people to change?"
"I was simply healing the part of me that created them," he said.
I didn't understand.
Dr. Len explained that total responsibility for your life means that everything in your life - simply because it is in your life--is your responsibility. In a literal sense the entire world is your creation.
Whew. This is tough to swallow. Being responsible for what I say or do is one thing. Being responsible for what everyone in my life says or does is quite another. Yet, the truth is this: if you take complete responsibility for your life, then everything you see, hear, taste, touch, or in any way experience is your responsibility because it is in your life.
This means that terrorist activity, the president, the economy--anything you experience and don't like--is up for you to heal. They don't exist, in a manner of speaking, except as projections from inside you. The problem isn't with them, it's with you, and to change them, you have to change you.
I know this is tough to grasp, let alone accept or actually live. Blame is far easier than total responsibility, but as I spoke with Dr. Len, I began to realize that healing for him and in ho 'oponopono means loving yourself.
If you want to improve your life, you have to heal your life. If you want to cure anyone--even a mentally ill criminal--you do it by healing you.
I asked Dr. Len how he went about healing himself. What was he doing, exactly, when he looked at those patients' files?
"I just kept saying, 'I'm sorry' and 'I love you' over and over again," he explained.
That's it?
That's it.
Turns out that loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, your improve your world. Let me give you a quick example of how this works: one day, someone sent me an email that upset me.
In the past I would have handled it by working on my emotional hot buttons or by trying to reason with the person who sent the nasty message. This time, I decided to try Dr. Len's method. I kept silently saying, "I'm sorry"
and "I love you," I didn't say it to anyone in particular. I was simply evoking the spirit of love to heal within me what was creating the outer circumstance.
Within an hour I got an e-mail from the same person. He apologized for his previous message. Keep in mind that I didn't take any outward action to get that apology. I didn't even write him back. Yet, by saying "I love you," I somehow healed within me what was creating him.
I later attended a ho 'oponopono workshop run by Dr. Len. He's now 70 years old, considered a grandfatherly shaman, and is somewhat reclusive. He praised my book, The Attractor Factor. He told me that as I improve myself, my book's vibration will raise, and everyone will feel it when they read it.
In short, as I improve, my readers will improve.
"What about the books that are already sold and out there?" I asked.
"They aren't out there," he explained, once again blowing my mind with his mystic wisdom. "They are still in you."
In short, there is no out there.
It would take a whole book to explain this advanced technique with the depth it deserves. Suffice it to say that whenever you want to improve anything in your life, there's only one place to look: inside you.
"When you look, do it with love."
Only by claiming responsibility for our own emotions and thoughts will we bring this world into a peaceful existence. Be gentle with yourself!
Re: Hawaiian healer and similarities to IFS spirituality
Dear Keith,
Thank you thank you for bringing the ho'oponopono wisdom to this forum and by doing so, affirming the universality of the IFS model. Compassion is the key.
I learned about the ho'oponopono practice when I began leading retreats in Hawaii 10 years ago and have seen first hand what you write about the practice. We end each day at the retreat with ho'oponopono and it is so inspiring to witness how transformative this practice is for everyone. When I was introduced to IFS 2 years ago, I was amazed by the similarities between the IFS model and all the Hawaiian wisdom I've learned over the years. The Hawaiian practices are sweet and soulful and have enriched my life immensely, but as you say, it is hard to swallow taking responsibility for everything in our lives. What I found in IFS was a user friendly map for taking responsibility without falling into the trap of self blame. The IFS model offers the kind of deep Aloha and ho'oponopono that frees our compassion and allows it to naturally flow to others. Using the model in my psychotherapy practice, incorporating it into my retreat, and into my life is truly making taking responsibility for everything much easier and more fulfilling. I know I must sound like an info commercial, but it is true.
If you are not already familiar with them, I think you would be interested in the 7 Hawaiian Huna Teachings that we also incorporate into our retreat, like ho'oponopono they teach taking full responsibility for everything in our lives. They are:
1. Ike, our ideas create our reality. 2. Kala, there are no limitations, we are all connected. 3. Makia, energy flows where attention goes. 4. Manawa, now is the moment of power. 5. Aloha, to love is to be happy with. 6. Mana, all power comes from within. 7. Pono, effectiveness is the measure of truth.
I will look forward to seeing the book, Zero Limits, and your future postings.
With appreciation,
Katherine
Re: Hawaiian healer and similarities to IFS spirituality
I am going to try this experiment. My spouse has advanced cancer that was recently diagnosed. I hope my time each day will heal him of his illness.
Eleanor